Tuesday, May 18, 2010
To post or not to post....
That is the question.
We in the jewelry/glass beadmaking/metal/ fine arts are a small bunch. We all know people who know people. There are plenty of "famous" blogger artists, forum artist, Etsy artists , Ebay artist, those who make a small to medium living from making beautiful things.
We all know each other in some small way, and we all form opinions and cliques that may or may not be beneficial or true. I will be the first one to say I have fallen into the gossip and sometimes not so nice behavior pointed at certain people, and for that my apologies, truly.
But you know what I have found out as I have grown older and pulled away from it all...no one is perfect, absolutely not one person. We have all been mean, been forgiven and forgiven others. We at times are caring, have been taken advantage of, not been given credit, and not given credit. Been the focus of invalid criticism, and maybe valid criticism.
But we all need to take a closer look at how we interact with others, how we handle ourselves as adults. I am not perfect and I cannot hold others to a standard that I am not willing to hold myself to.
At one point I joined in the mocking of an artist. He/She was the snicker we had in the corner of the room. We reveled in our "coolness", thought we were all that. I slowly began to notice that the "cool kids" were not so supportive of me in ways I had been supportive of them. The give and take was very one sided. It began to hurt and I pulled away.
A couple of years later I taught with the artist we had made the butt of our jokes. He/She was a delight. Kind, thoughtful, funny and very talented. Then in a moment He/She supported me in a way that the "cool kids" never did..ever. Imagine my horror as I realized my arrogance. One of my big "ah ha " moments. Shame on me.
I will still be kind to the "cool kids". They have their paths to go down, and I have mine. I by no means am any better or worse. I am just trying to not get caught up in useless thoughts.
You know what is important, to look inward, decide what feels right, and what feels wrong. Graciousness, what a wonderful word. Let us all be gracious, strong, caring and thoughtful before we decide if being one of the "cool kids" is really worth it.
And before you decide to take someone on, look inward, be an adult, stand strong, but for goodness sakes, stand with graciousness.